The important thing about this is that Dean has never at all denied the insinuation of a relationship with Castiel. If he is as much of a heterosexual legend as canon claims him to be, maybe he would have tried to defend his sexuality more adamantly. But I don’t think Dean is straight, and I don’t think he’s gay either. He is certainly sexual with women, but he doesn’t seem to be able to interact with them on any deeper level. Even his relationship with Lisa was founded on not his attraction to her, but the idea of her, of being normal. While, yes, he has sex with women, all his emotional relationships are with men, so at the very least he is homosocial. The interesting thing with Castiel is that there is no familial obligation that keeps them together- not like it does with Sam or Bobby. The level of trust and affection he has for Castiel is homo-romantic I think, and the fact is that if Castiel was played by a woman, they would have had sex ages ago. Dean is loud, brash- but he makes no attempt to deny that Castiel has feelings for him, he doesn’t even laugh it off like he does the other gay jokes. He acknowledges the feelings between him and Castiel by not talking about them, by refusing to comment because they’re not feelings that can be easily resolved, and it’s just fucking complicated.
THIS fucking THIS.
I was flat out SHOCKED during My Heart Will Go On when Dean had NO REACTION WHATSOEVER to Bal’s ‘Cas is in love with you’ line beyond the slight turn of his head shown above. I was expecting a ‘shut up, Bal’ at least, if not some OTT denial. But… nada.
I’d been thinking this was the show missing a trick. But I like this reading much better - that Dean CAN’T laugh off or deny these claims about Castiel’s affections. Because, even if he’s too scared or repressed or whatever to admit it out loud, he IS AWARE of Castiel’s feelings for him. And more than that, he is NOT OBVIOUSLY OPPOSED to those feelings.
I’d ALSO been thinking Dean as a closet bisexual was the BEST way of explaining Dean’s behaviour as of late. But, you know, the idea that he is homosocial and perhaps has homo-romantic feelings (terms I’ve never come across before - thanks tumblr for the continuing education :p) for Cas has a lot of merit. I’m assuming this would make his and Cas’ relationship something like Sherlock and Watson’s relationship is often considered? (the one that ISN’T ‘gay as a tree of monkeys and at it like rabbits’ I mean). So - v.close. Something more than family. But not sexual in any way? Because, that would be lovely, I would like that :)